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Supporting male survivors of sexual abuse and rape (aged 13+), and their loved ones


Beyond Betrayal: Taking Charge of Your Life After Boyhood Sexual Abuse

by Richard B. Gartner

“If you have been sexually abused, this book will give you information, hope, direction, and most importantly, the assurance that you are not alone. Dr. Gartner has written an accessible, compassionate book that clearly lays out the healing process for men who were hurt or abused as children. Whether you were abused by a mother, a camp counselor, a neighborhood boy, or a priest, Beyond Betrayal will give you the tools you need to reclaim your life and move on”.

Breaking Free Workbook: Practical help for survivors of child sexual abuse: Help for Survivors of Child Sex Abuse

by Carolyn Ainscough and Kay Toon
A workbook for survivors of sexual abuse, to use alongside “Breaking Free”, or on its own.

Broken Boys/Mending Men: Recovery from Childhood Sexual Abuse

by Stephen D. Grubman-Black
Broken Boys/Mending Men awakens us to the realities of a grave situation: boys are the victims of sexual abuse. It is estimated that one in six males suffers some form of sexual abuse as a child or teenager. In most cases the victim knows and trusts the perpetrator – most often an adult or teenage male. Broken Boys/Mending Men provides a frank discussion of the issue, describing the consequences of male sexual abuse and the ways that victims can find help in healing the pain. Candid first-person accounts illustrate issues commonly faced by males trying to deal with their early victimisation – withdrawal, isolation, denial, the loss of security and self-esteem – and how society’s traditional view of masculinity acts as a barrier to their recovery.

The Secret Lives of Men: Ten Keys to Unlock the Mystery

by James Hawes
This book takes the reader into the inner world of men. Within the three parts of the book the reader will discover the complexity of relationships, the history of men and finally the ten keys that will unlock the secrets to men. Essentially this book will help women to understand what is going on inside his head and how he manages difficult emotions. Men will discover what other men think and realise that they are not alone. The core of the book is about how men can learn emotional fitness. Most of us know how to keep physically fit, but few of us know how to keep emotionally fit. We are emotionally fit when we can feel and express the right feeling in the right way and at the right time. This book will introduce you to well over 50 tips to become more emotionally fit.

Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror

by Judith Herman
When Trauma and Recovery was first published in 1992, it was hailed as a ground-breaking work. In the intervening years, Herman’s volume has changed the way we think about and treat traumatic events and trauma victims. In a new afterword, Herman chronicles the incredible response the book has elicited and explains how the issues surrounding the topic have shifted within the clinical community and the culture at large. Trauma and Recovery brings a new level of understanding to a set of problems usually considered individually. Herman draws on her own cutting-edge research in domestic violence as well as on the vast literature of combat veterans and victims of political terror, to show the parallels between private terrors such as rape and public traumas such as terrorism. The book puts individual experience in a broader political frame, arguing that psychological trauma can be understood only in a social context. Meticulously documented and frequently using the victims’ own words as well as those from classic literary works and prison diaries, Trauma and Recovery is a powerful work that will continue to profoundly impact our thinking.

Victims No Longer: Men Recovering from Incest and Other Sexual Child Abuse

by Ellen Bass, Mike Lew

This book offers advice to men who are survivors of childhood sexual abuse. It aims to help them to identify and validate their childhood experiences; explore strategies of survival and healing; work through issues such as trust, intimacy and sexuality; establish a support network for continued personal recovery; and set goals for the future.

What Doesn't Kill Us: A guide to overcoming adversity and moving forward

by Stephen Joseph

Research has shown than anywhere from 30 to 90 per cent of people confronted by tragedy, horror and adversity emerge as wiser, more mature and more fulfilled people, sometimes despite great sadness. Relationships become stronger. Perspectives on life change. Inner strengths are found.

For the past twenty years, Stephen Joseph has worked with survivors of trauma and sufferers of posttraumatic stress. In this groundbreaking book, he boldly challenges the notion that trauma and its aftermath devastate and destroy the lives. His studies have shown that a wide range of traumatic events – from illness, separation, assault and bereavement to accidents, natural disasters and terrorism – can act as catalysts for positive change, strengthening relationships, changing one’s perspective and revealing inner strengths.

In What Doesn’t Kill Us, Stephen Joseph shares the six steps we can all use to manage our emotions and navigate adversity to find new meaning, purpose and direction in our lives.